When two people enter into a relationship, the number of decisions they must make for themselves decreases significantly because their respective decision circles overlap. This doesn't mean that all decisions must be made together, but rather that almost every decision made individually has an impact on the other person. To maintain a healthy relationship, each couple should consider their spouse when making decisions. Communication, respect, and reliable decision-making are key to strengthening and flourishing in a relationship.
It's important to listen to your partner and make an effort to understand their point of view. Remember that the decisions you make are made under extreme circumstances and there is no simple, cheap, good, and obvious choice. Talk to your partner early on and often about life's big decisions and make sure to listen to each other's pros, cons, fears, and desires. It is a powerfully loving act and the first step on the path to developing couple values.
Deliberately choosing to make what's important to one important to both of you is how you can intentionally develop your partner. Set a time frame in which you will make your decision. Don't rush important decisions, but don't put them off either. It is essential to set a fixed time and a specific day for the decision.
The image you have of yourself and the feeling of your opinion are as valid as those of your partner, which influences the entire decision-making process in the couple. If you're a confident person, you'll have what it takes to defend what you believe in and influence the final decision. Most couples find that the decision-making process brings them closer together; many feel that they had to act as a team under pressure.
